Posts Tagged ‘good advice’

     I have a lot of mix CD’s in my car, and I have written what they are on each one – but I’m pretty terrible at it and mostly they are all just surprise mix CDs. They are kinda fun to go down memory lane with on occasion. Anyway, one  evening I was driving home from a friend’s house and a song came on from one such CD and I was singing along when suddenly I got quiet and just listened. I started thinking to myself that this was a song that young women … hell.. all women! needed to hear and take to heart. I thought about my daughters. I thought about Jenna, who is now 12 and has all those issues that being 12 brings; “popular girls”, body changes, new feelings, self doubt, questioning everything and everyone – teasing in school.. all of it. I though about how it only gets worse in some aspects, and better in others. I thought about how even as adults, we still have a lot of these problems within ourselves. Let’s look over this song:

Des’ree
Gotta Be
Big Sing 2008

Listen as your day unfolds
Challenge what the future holds
Try and keep your head up to the sky
Lovers they may cause your tears
Go ahead release your fears
Stand up and be counted don’t be ‘shamed to cry

You gotta be, you gotta be bad
You gotta be bold, you gotta be wiser
You gotta be hard, you gotta be tough, you gotta be stronger
You gotta be cool, you gotta be calm, you gotta stay together
All I know, all I know love will save the day

Herald what your mother said
Read the books your father read
Try to solve the puzzles in your own sweet time
Some may have more cash than you
Others take a different view
My, oh, my
he-eh-y

You gotta be bad
You gotta be bold, you gotta be wiser
You gotta be hard, you gotta be tough, you gotta be stronger
You gotta be cool, you gotta be calm, you gotta stay together
All I know, all I know love will save the day

Time asks no questions it goes on without you
Leaving you behind if you can’t stand the pace
The world keeps on spinning can’t stop it if you tried to
The best part is danger staring you in the face

Remember, listen as your day unfolds
Challenge what the future holds
Try to keep your head up to the sky
Lovers they may cause your tears
Go ahead release your fears
My, oh, my
He-ey-y

You gotta be bad
You gotta be bold, you gotta be wiser
You gotta be hard, you gotta be tough, you gotta be stronger
You gotta be cool, you gotta be calm, you gotta stay together
All I know, all I know love will save the day

You gotta be bad
You gotta be bold, you gotta be wiser
You gotta be hard, you gotta be tough, you gotta be stronger
You gotta be cool, you gotta be calm, you gotta stay together
All I know, all I know love will save the day

Got to be bold, Got to be bad
Got to be wise, no never sad
Got to be hard, not too too hard
All I know is love will save the day

You gotta be bad
You gotta be bold, you gotta be wiser
You gotta be hard, you gotta be tough, you gotta be stronger
You gotta be cool, you gotta be calm, you gotta stay together
Oooh, yeah yeah yeah

What I see here is a woman saying that you have to keep your head up, and be strong. Don’t be afraid to ask the hard questions and step out of the box and ultimately, love – the love you have for your SELF will “save the day” or.. in the end.. keep you from falling apart because you are a strong individual.

     I see all these girls already agonizing over boys and how their “lives are over” because so and so broke up with them and I’m floored because these are 11 and 12 year old girls! I am SO glad my daughter and her friends are more the anime/fan girl type rather than the boy chasing/OMG what if he doesn’t like my fb status type.. for now. ( I’m not dumb.. I know it’ll happen) I only hope that in the meantime, these girls have their heads on straight, their hearts in their OWN firm grasp, and their minds on their futures, because they are big, and they are bright, and these girls can do anything.

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